#introduction post uwu
i’m SOFT! you can also call me soft. i am 22 and live in Texas. i like weed, video games, doodling, and hotdads. i frequently post about these things!!
🔞 i also post about kink things a lot, so i don’t accept follow requests from minors.
i am bad at approaching people, so don’t be afraid to chat at me or ask me questions. i’m an open book!
the literal ONLY time you should bring up your sexual attraction to a trans person is if you are asking them out and it would still Extremely Behoove you to not bring up their transness in relation to that lmao
cis people love to imagine that their sexual feelings about trans people are somehow relevant to their allyship or even mildly appropriate to bring up to trans people
Further, if you are brand new:
"Instance meta" or sometimes simply "meta" refers to inter-instance events. No news is good news, so typically this will refer to unpleasantries involving bad administration, defederation, and the like. If you are caught on an instance whose admin has done something shitty, you are not obliged to stay. There are tools for moving and redirecting accounts in your preferences/options menu.
Much of Mastodon is left-leaning if not very left. For the most part we don't have much in the way of conflict, but long-winded defenses of capitalism will not get far, nor will trying to isolate "tankies" as a target.
If you see truly fucked up behavior, racism, queermisia, etc, report it. The corollary to this is that you should know who is being addressed when you are arriving in someone else's mentions. Most people have their pronouns and relevant information in their profiles, it's a good idea to at least add pronouns to yours, too.
New folks who are a few hundred posts or fewer into Mastodon: There are some unspoken or spoken tonal things to consider.
Edgy jokes need to punch up if you're going to be making them at all. "Ironic" punching down is going to go over like a lead balloon. Instances have died because the admin made comments like this.
Gage the situation before making a reply, especially to a stranger. When in doubt, don't give advice, corrections, or requests of specific people unless they are requested. Being overly chummy with people you are not familiar with may be taken as pestering. Random flirting is a quick way to get reported and largely shut out, even if it's "not serious."
CWs are your friend. Although there are times where they are egregious, and although CW requests specifically have been weaponized against primarily users of color (don't weaponize CW requests please), if it's lewd, rude, or food, better safe than sorry until you pick up on the general tone.
@heartles Though I imagine the reason the Eugen branch doesn't have it is because he doesn't give a shit about other people's desires in what he views as his project.